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JULY 2009

by Cheryl W. Martin

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Happy Independence!
Here are the scenes we saw from our upper deck on the fourth of July.

We couldn’t improve on last year’s picture of the fireworks show seen from our deck. Hope your Fourth of July was as fun and enjoyable.

It seems almost unbelievable that a year has gone by since these last pictures.

Success breeds success

Successes with hypnosis abound with a recent group from Athens, Alabama, having success in changing their lives. One successful stop smoking client came and told all the others who have now successfully worked on losing weight, being able to swallow pills, , being able to successfully cold call, and several sports enthusiasts have now improved their confidence and game. All of these clients are just from the last month or so, not from the entire quarter since the last blog.

Click to view stop smoking read the true stories of people who successfully stopped smoking. To view true stories of people who lost weight link to Weight Loss.

Hypnotist practices what he teaches (preaches)

We also had a call from Texas. The person followed the good reputation of The PATH Foundation and called to ask for someone to work with their child regarding weight loss. We got information about location and sent several names of good hypnotists in the Houston area within driving distance. The parent of the child chose someone who had applied the process personally looking at Mike Schuman’s before and after pictures on his website for his Houston practice. Mike lost significant weight and the person looking at various people and their skills chose not the person closest to them, but the one who applied hypnosis in a way that successfully changed their own health and life.

Link here to view Superlearning. I forgot about a very successful pain release client from the Athens group also. Click to view children’s hypnosis. And, if you can’t make it to Birmingham for an appointment, view our offering of in-home healing sessions with hypnosis here.

The pictures of people adding the skill of hypnosis to their practices or starting a practice is now rotating on the franchisee’s part of the website with hypnosis classes in Houston. Within the next months before the time for the next update those rotating pictures will have additions to them.

Hypnotist "Pete" investigates paranormal

We are happy to also announce one of our former students, Pete Haviliand, sent us an email letting us know he has opened his office in Houston. Pete is a very creative and thoughtful person who has helped many people around the country with his business as the owner and innovator of a company which investigates paranormal activity. He is known all over the United States for his expertise in this field and has a radio talk show regarding paranormal investigation. He also is a very good hypnotist. We received his email and then I started noticing lots of mainstream articles about paranormal activity.

A group in Tuscaloosa, Alabama, is now preserving a home built in the 1800’s by a physician in Tuscaloosa. They hired a paranormal investigative group to investigate activity happening during the renovation. They talk in the Birmingham News article about the activity, the investigation , the scientific method of investigation of this activity, and the findings. The findings were that the house is haunted, but it is friendly energy welcoming the renovation.

Right behind that article, I picked up an article about Homewood Library in Homewood, Alabama, having activity which has been investigated by a paranormal group. Again, the technique was with technical equipment with people trained in this field. The energy found was paranormal energy. We are including Pete’s email with his website addresses where you can reach him. His website is filled with wonderful pictures and stories.

Orbs in pictures show paranormal energy fields

Pete explained about orbs in detail to us when he took our classes. The idea had already been told to us by an attorney who took our classes. She had gone to Sedona on vacation and came back with her pictures. Orbs were in many of the pictures and she had investigated what showed up in her pictures. From her discussion we learned the first information about this paranormal energy. Pete taught us more and we now find orbs showing up in our pictures showing that energy from the past still assists and helps us.

You can view one by going to our weight loss pictures/stories. Bea Miller won the six-month weight loss and got a framed hand crocheted angel as the reward. Her Dad had been very close to her with her nursing him through his final days. In the mirror behind her standing with her award is a large orb.

This link will take you to Bea's story.

I was looking at a listing of some friend’s land on a website recently and there were orbs in a spiritual color.

Pete's Email to us about his practice and paranormal activities;

The Hypnosis Signal of Water

In all sessions, an automatic signal is given to assist with well-being and the ability to connect to the subconscious mind quicker. It is the signal of water. I was sent a wonderful email showing babies who love water and look what they can do! Clients also love the water signal which triggers positive connection to the subconscious.

I have received many emails of people talking about following the signs/symbols that come into their life for good guidance. This has come from our discussions on the development of right brain consciousness. In the last quarterly blog we mentioned stories of people who did not have it or ignored their guidance and then wound up in terrible circumstance.

Deceased Star's phenomenal success and talent
could not overcome the effects of their abuse

The news has recently been filled with sad stories of people departing who had many ups and downs in their life, but all of them were talented. Two of them noticeably had a voice which never developed into an adult voice. One told of their severe abuse as a child and the other was in the national news as an adult after being nearly killed by an abusive boyfriend. She also had lived with a man for seventeen years who was known for his volatile temper and a tendency towards abuse.

Who were these people? Michael Jackson and Farah Fawcett. Michael Jackson’s death apparently was the end result of searching for a way to sleep. He was able to access a very powerful drug used only in the operating room. We know what happened with that. I thought it was sad that he resorted to such an extreme manner in order to sleep.

If you have a problem with sleep, hypnosis can work wonders with that problem. We also have a CD Hypnosis set which is very powerful in assisting with sleep disorders .

A minister was recently talking to us and told of his 18 month old grandchild calling out at night when the child needed someone to come to him. The minister was amazed that the child could call out in a booming voice in a very adult-like manner. He also would not use the adult voice until he felt it necessary.

The cartoon below shows being able to take in air and feel confident enough to express self. Those two very childlike voices at the end of two adult lives were very telling.

Check our website within the next couple of months for handwriting updates which will include both Michael Jackson and Farrah Fawcett.

Right Brain Connection (Developing Discernment)
can help you avoid hardships and literally save you

Developing right brain capacity can literally help avoid hardship and even save lives. Last July I wrote about holding my mind to being able to “see the snakes coming” when focusing on the mountainside wooded lot next door. Within a week that lot was cleared by the city effort of a new mayor without my writing a letter or taking any action other than having emotion and focusing my mind. I didn’t tell the story of why I suddenly was afraid of the snakes coming into my world.

As I tell this story, I will relate it to what Elizabeth Edwards recently wrote on the back cover of her book, "Resilience". The purpose of my relaying all of this is to show that developing right brain capacity and belief will assist your own life. Some people believe that all who enter must leave happy, when , in actuality, some should never be allowed to enter and some need to be shown the door after they display venomous behavior. In other words, some people need to be shown the door, or even better yet, never get their foot beyond the door. The door I am speaking of is the door to your life.

Now we will go back to last July and the snake. As a child my mother would tell of a mockingbird flying around her when she would work with her flowers in her flower garden. She told how the bird saved her from a snake one day by dive-bombing and letting off an awful sound right where a venomous snake was sunning. My mother would have stuck her hand right at the snake’s mouth as she weeded. The snake was waiting there and the bird let her know about it.

In July of last year I heard quite a noise on the front porch coming from a side wrought iron railing where a loud mockingbird was sitting on the rail. I went out that door rather than the front door that I normally used. When I got out to look at the bird, the bird kept up the clatter and kept moving his head in the direction of the front door. When I looked at the door, there was a huge rattlesnake right in front of our front door. I would have stepped right at his head had I walked out that door. The cobblestone porch was cool for the snake and later it was explained to me that the stack of fire wood next to our high porch had been the snake’s access to the porch and our world.

Dear Abby recently suggested what to do with a human snake in a woman’s office environment. Since the woman did not have to have contact with this snake, Dear Abby suggested keeping distance between the person writing and the venomous office person without the person writing openly engaging the venomous office co-worker. The reason given was that the woman writing was taking up someone else’s battle and that a venomous person will take pleasure in causing harm.

Luckily, when I returned to engage the snake, he was gone. The snake probably couldn’t handle the bird’s racket. However, through the focus of mind, actually two minds who had strong emotion, that stack of wood was carted off and the lot next door was cleared within the next 2 weeks.

The bird saved me just like a bird from the past had saved my mother. Was it a hand reaching out from Heaven with a sign I would remember? Who knows?

Now before I continue please read what Elizabeth Edwards wrote on the inside back cover of her book "Resilience":

The above statement shows her belief system. She believes she can rise after adversity, but has no belief that she can effectively discern her world to avoid adversity. She does not believe that there are signs of what you are dealing with in life to help you maneuver around the landmines which can literally blow up your world.

Mrs. Edward’s book itself gives clues before you read a word. The inner lining is a murky yellow color(unresolved father issues). As it turns out her father betrayed her (or at least her mother believed that he had done so) mother while her mother was pregnant with Elizabeth Edwards. Mrs. Edwards also has a sister who was severely humiliated and betrayed after a long term marriage.

Information now available related to pregnancy shows that at 24 weeks a fetus begins to hear what is going on around them and picks up the emotions of the mother. In this family, the issue was never discussed. Elizabeth Edwards found her mother’s journal from that year when she was thirteen.

She, from that point on, chose to verbally give instruction to her suitors saying DO NOT BETRAY ME. Trained hypnotherapists/hypnotists know that the subconscious mind often deletes negatives. As she said these words to her suitors with emotion, her subconscious heard only the last two words and she subconsciously picked someone who would accommodate her.

How could she avoid this? Change her inner programming and that particular human snake would not have been allowed to flourish and prosper in her world.

From the back cover, we learn that this woman who has just built a paid-for twenty million dollar home and has assets of 200 million dollars, believes she can rise like the phoenix. We know that accomplishment can happen because she is known to be the foundation of the family’s financial success and a powerful litigator with a Yale law school education. In her family, she is considered the bright one and the courageous one.

Had she just changed her belief system about being able to spot adversity and avoid it, rather than have to deal with it, perhaps she would be in a different circumstance regarding her health and her family life.

Addiction Family system roles often project
feelings to villify the victim not the addict

The part of this news story about this family from South Carolina and the other family from the other polarity state of North Carolina was not about the actions of the obviously disloyal men and its devastating effect on their families, but instead about the written words of some very critical female reporters. These female reporters (some of them) were vicious in their comments about the betrayed wives of these men.

These reporters glorified those other woman as exciting, attractive, sexy, etc. So I rushed to look these glorified women over and found first: a known drug user with a non-productive life who was paid to make a non-existent video with possible campaign money ($144,000), who was now in her forties with a trail of failed relationships behind her. As far as looks, she was ok, but no glamorous beauty. And second: the other glorified other woman has made one video and in it she is standing with no make-up talking in a very aloof manner. She is so aloof in her manner one wonders why she is the one chosen to broadcast at all. That career of hers is over, by the way.

From looking at the disparity of these womens descriptions by these reporters and what their eyes/ears cannot deny, it is obvious the reporters are projecting their feelings and reporting what they feel. Their words and condemnation of Mrs. Edwards and the Governor of North Carolina’s wife, were untrue and of total disparity.

Mrs. Edwards graduated with honors from Yale. She was at least a fifty per cent partner in their achieving the status of 200 million in assets and is known to be the far better litigator of the two. She not only did that job but arranged care for two elderly parents, brought the family through the death of a teenage child from accident, birthed and started raising (alone while he campaigned) two small children, and went through a major illness (cancer). Reading about her life in the media, it brought to mind Ann Richards (former Texas Governor)saying before the National Democratic Convention, "women can do any dance step a man can do. They just have to do it moving backwards and in high heels".

The venom spewed at Elizabeth Edwards by these women reporters along the with awful caricatures drawn of her in their writings, spoke volumes. Not about Elizabeth Edwards, but about those reporters.

When people are living addictive roles, their projections speak through their actions and words. One of the addictive roles is the role of co-dependent. The co-dependent takes on the handling of everything and adheres to a rigorous code in doing it. The code of the co-dependent is self-sacrifice to the detriment of their own health and well-being. They are the one who does everything for everyone else in the system until they crash and burn from the weight of what they have taken on. Another part of their co-dependent role is that everyone else within or from the addictive system blames the co-dependent and then excuses the sick/needy addict. The blame is intense and often turns to viciousness and hate. It is the most unfair of all. But it is just part of the addiction role system.

These reporters reported on both men also as being duped and needing pity. John Edwards takes his cue from the support of these women and calls himself a narcissist for one night. In reality, narcissists make a lifetime out of their song which has only one note: me, me, me, and more me.

The Governor from North Carolina, spoke at length about his youth, his soul mate, his mother, and with his bare feet and little-boy-lost demeanor he was crying out for a stern mother to spank his hands. His own mother spoke her words of: “no matter what he does, I will always love him.” He gets his aloof, dominatrix reprimands from another place and it is obviously not from the wife who , by her words and actions, show that she is trying to save her four boys from the hardship of the situation.

The female reporters attack her as “tacking her star to someone else’s career”. In actuality, she brought the wealth to the marriage providing the foundation again for them to live on a bluff overlooking the ocean and she states that her concern is not for saving his job, but for saving her boys from this heartbreak.

These female reporters who were so critical of the wives had me talking out loud saying:

“Well, we know a personal button has been pushed in your life, woman. You just may be someone’s back-burner mistress and probably have a successful co-dependent mother and a father on a pedestal. And, the reason you are a mistress is that you go through life trying to steal Daddy from your much-hated mother with just about every older man situation you encounter. It is not about the man, but getting back at and competing with your mother. Rather than seeing your daddy and your mother from a real perspective, they are viewed through a murky glass with your projections speaking volumes.”

“You, dear, have Mother issues which will keep you from being a nurturer of self and others. You, also, have father issues which will keep you on that back burner waiting for Daddy to be yours exclusively, when you really don’t want him. Your drama will be played out as extreme drama with your tiring of that daddy, turning on him, and going on to find the next daddy . A trail of tears with many lives severely demolished…and you will continue to whine about the critical mother you perceive.”

For those dealing with people in a therapeutic manner, you had better be educated and grounded enough to know how dangerous all of this can be to not only the people coming for help, but to the person who is to be the helping professional in this situation.

Let’s examine what was lost in these two national situations:

1. Two prospective candidates for President of the United States were destroyed. One liberal and one conservative, almost a canceling out of the competition.

I also found it interesting that no one mentioned a probability here. It may not have happened, but would be a plausible theory based on circumstance and what is known about the players.

Could the other political side have caused that temptation, to produce scandal, in the paths of these men?

John Edwards took the bait the first night. Could it be that person waiting on the side walk may have thought: “This is the dumbest mark I have ever encountered?” “This could be a 200 million dollar gig with his wife possibly dying?” If that happened, then she just upped the ante and played for higher stakes.

That woman who had been labeled a “free spirit” had managed to make it to forty without an illegitimate child, but she now forgets about birth control so the millions can begin to role in through secret channels.

Just supposition, but very interesting that the possibilities were never even broached.

These two men possibly felt they were a combination of Tom Selleck and Paul Newman (remember their egos will make it all about them) and never thought that they were jeopardizing a chance at the Presidency by falling into the snare, hurting their family and children, and bringing a much needed lifetime financial commitment to a child , without a legal father, in that one case.

Both men will certainly incur an investigation of spending and possibly incur legal or criminal convictions with a label.

Would right brain capacity have been helpful for these men?

2. Subconscious programming surely has entered into the minds of the children harmed in these two situations… which is a loss of innocence and loss of well-being.

Listen to the song BECAUSE OF YOU

3. Probable loss of family relationships which had been producing and working quite well up until this point.

What came to my mind was:

The way for these two men to learn about true intimacy would be: Having to go live in the world of that other woman and making it a committed relationship. What they would find would be: this was never about a true relationship. It was all built around the illicitness of it and the unavailability of it. They would also learn that not all “slurpy words are spoken from truth.”

Discernment of truth & loyalty helps success

Recent writings about Franklin Delano Roosevelt and Winston Churchill showed that both men were not excellent in the classroom. They were good at finding people who were loyal to them and committed to their ideals.

Dolly Parton was asked how she made her fortune after coming from poverty. Her response was that her Daddy could spot people to allow in his world across a football field. Her Dad could also spot those to “get gone”. She said she also had his gift. She values and rewards the loyal people in her life, and gets rid of those who are not working for her benefit rather than trying to fix them.

Right brain capacity ways of knowing about people can be learned on these links:

Tree Drawing
Symbols analysis including handwriting
Mandala Drawing

These sites will be updated in the next two months. So, check back on them.

Hypnosis helps Grief to be understood & resolved

We have talked about positive ways that hypnosis can assist. Grief can be tremendously helped by hypnosis. The movement in grief is not totally linear but it helps to move through all stages of grief, with periods of moving backwards.

My family has recently had a “one-two” punch. My own Dad died suddenly on Easter with our very supportive and loving Aunt dying on Memorial Day. I am just coming out of numbness, and I am in the searching and pining stage. I thought at Father’s Day about what I would get my Dad. Then, it hit me: it will have to be grave flowers. I bought an eternal grave angel with an eternal grave cross. They glow beautifully at night.

We drove through Chilton County recently and I thought “Peaches for Daddy”! No, no peaches for him anymore.

So I have been thinking about memories and the funny paper helped. My Dad carried me to take my driver’s test at 16. I took it in an Olds 98 and those cars were huge.

He drove over there and we both were hopeful with some nervousness. He forgot to pull the seat forward and I was too scared to notice. I parallel parked that huge car with the tip of my toe.

The trooper told my Dad: “She passed, but please remind her to always pull the seat forward. I can’t believe she did all those skills with the tip of her toe.”

I will always remember what my Daddy said: “My girls constantly amaze me… from the oldest one right on down to the baby.” I was the middle child.

Dagwood teaching his daughter to drive

I thank my Dad now for always checking my car before I left to go anywhere.

I will always treasure our rides the last three years and the talks. The last excursion we took with Daddy before Easter had my youngest sister driving with Daddy in the front seat. The first born sister and I were in the back. We stopped at a drive-in ordering place for meals to take with us. Rather than driving through, you get out and go to a window. I went down to another window for some condiments and slid back into the car while Daddy was talking to my youngest sister.She knew I was in, but he didn’t.

I will always remember his parental response as she cranked up to go: “Is Cheryl back in… don’t leave her.”

A grown woman will always remember being someone’s child and having a parent concerned about my well-being.

Even though most people know my training in grief. I still hear: It is best to “get over it” from friends hoping to help.

Hypnosis can help with sleeping, eating , and health issues connected to grief. It can bring the positive memories to the surface to sustain life, also. I choose to remember now and to remember My Daddy and My Aunt with her beautiful shoes always (never any old lady shoes for her), and that these two people who loved us, validated us, and were supportive of our efforts right up to the end of their life, will always be part of what we are all about in life. To assist with grief go here.

My feelings for my departed loved ones are expressed in this song.
forever is as far as I will go…

Hope you are living a wonder-filled life,

Cheryl W. Martin

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